Focusing on the Positive
Words by Yolandi Boshoff
Now this is a concept that we see a lot of in the world. Remember to be positive, everything is going to be okay as long as you look at the good in everything and everyone.
Well, guess what. Sometimes things are shit. Sometimes you are angry and frustrated and furious with good reason. And do you know what? It is okay to be angry. It is your right to be angry. You are allowed to be angry!
When you deny your right to be angry, you deny your right to be human. And the same for every other ‘negative’ emotion. Please note my inverted commas around the word negative. The world loves to brand things as positive or negative.
All emotions are valid – anger, guilt, frustration, impatience, grief, love, envy, sadness, anxiety, jealousy, joy – all of them!! All emotions are energy.
Part of our 3D experience is being able to connect to different emotions. This is a unique Earth-centric capability. One of the reasons Souls choose to come here is to experience the emotional body in this dimension as it is not available anywhere else.
But somewhere a long, long time ago someone decided to create a distinction between emotions, placing judgement on emotion and labelling it good or bad.
We were also told that we are not to show or feel the bad emotions. Feeling emotions like jealousy, envy and anger are wrong. Thinking bad thoughts or feeling bad emotions will result in you burning in hell, remember it’s a sin! So what do I do, I swing the pendulum right to the other side and start telling myself that in order to survive, not die in the eternal flames of hell I better make sure that I am all positive and love.
Completely denying myself the opportunity of learning from these amazing energies that I want to experience as a Soul. Our emotional bodies/energy fields were designed to deal with emotions. The emotions enter my system and then requires to be felt. I am required to feel all the cells responding within my body to this emotions’ energy. And then once fully felt I allow it to be released again. I take from the emotions the lessons, the beauty and the learning.
But as I am still learning to understand this strange energy body, I sometimes get it wrong. I either take that emotion once it enters and I suppress it into the depth of my being. I love to store anger in my liver and sadness in my heart. I hide it in my physical body and hold onto it in an unseen manner. It’s a bit like sweeping things under the carpet, except I store it somewhere in my body.
Or once this emotion enters, I like to hold onto it with my mental energy body. I find a space in my mind to keep this emotion of say for instance jealousy, and in those moments between living my life and being busy, like at night when I get into bed and want to fall asleep, I start analysing it. I spend hours of my life looking at this emotion, over-analysing it, thinking about it over and over and over again. I am like a bulldog not wanting to let go of this piece of meat. Holding on and never wanting to let go.
When instead my being was designed to feel it, work with it and then gently send it on its way out of my energy body again. Flowing in and out like water.
Our emotions are such beautiful teachers. They point us right at the resistance within ourselves. They show you truths, desires, wounds and love that you hold within you. They are sacred expressions that help us to become more conscious.
What if anger was actually there to reconnect you with your sacred power?
What if jealousy was there to reconnect you with your creative abilities?
What if guilt was there to reconnect you with your compassion within?
What if frustration was there to help you change direction in your life?
What if impatience was there to help you learn to trust?
What if envy was there to propel you forward in a new way?
What if sadness was there to help you love yourself more?
What if anxiety was there to help you connect deeper with yourself?
If you allow yourself that moment in time to feel that emotion, you allow it to pass through your system. You can feel it, be in it and then take time to understand it. If every time that emotion arises you choose to push it down again into the depths of you it becomes bigger and bigger. And then one day you will feel like a massive overwhelming explosion within when it gets too much. Something inside will break.
Allow yourself to feel it all. Allow yourself to also sit down with it and understand what triggered those emotions within you. Look at it and see what it wants to show you. The more you allow all your feelings to be real - happy and content will be showing up for you anyways. There will be more space within you for all feelings.
AUTHOR BIO
Yolandi works as a Soul coach with clients in more than 35 countries across the world. Her passion is deep Soul remembering and reconnection, helping you to step through the fear, find your voice and unleash your inner guru again. She focuses on DNA activation, Seal Removal, Akashic Record Readings, Starseed Connections, Light Language Healing and Soul Channelling.
